Monday, October 31, 2011

More to come...

I do have a huge pile of pictures to post so those will be coming soon but... I just can not keep my mouth shut about this...

Seriously do people not believe in the sacrament of marriage? What happened "to death do us part" and "for better and for worse?" I am just completely floored at Hollywood these days. I realize there is a certain stress that comes along with those jobs but really? Kim Kardashian was married for less than 3 months, Ashton Kutcher cheats on his beautiful wife and Arnold Schwarzenegger has a child with another woman and keeps it from his wife for 17 years. SERIOUSLY??? I realize this sort of thing is not exclusive to celebrities but just more widely publicized.

There have been days where I'm sure Jeremy and I have not liked each other much in our 3+ years of marriage but it has NEVER crossed my mind to just throw in the towel. What happened to letting things go and treating your significant other with respect?

Now I'm by no means saying that divorce isn't sometimes okay. If you put forth the effort and put some real time into making it work and you still aren't happy then it can be a good thing for all parties involved. I just feel like it's too easy to get out of what should be a "binding" contract for lack of a better term.

Two quotes I will never forget...
My mom always told me that her mom said, "Sometimes there aren't bad days in marriage, there aren't bad weeks in marriage, sometimes there are bad years in marriage." I know that sounds like a horrible thing to say and I remember being appalled when my mom told me that over 5 years ago but... my grandparents were married for over 50 years, lost a child, had children in the war and made it through all of that. As a married couple, you are supposed to work through your issues, be there for each other when the other has had a bad day and share in the exciting parts of life. Which leads me to the next quote.
When my friend Libby got married, we were chatting before the wedding and her mom said this, "Some days you will give your marriage 50% of you but your husband will give 100% of himself. Some days you'll give 100% and your husband will give 50%." Marriage is a give and take. I know I'm not the easiest person to live with, love, and parent with. But I know that Jeremy accepts me and still loves me on those days that I'm just not 100%.  There are days when Jeremy drives me crazy and I know he's not putting forth 100% of himself to us, but I accept it and know that tomorrow could and will be a different day.

I guess what I'm getting at is... put your whole heart into the person you want to marry, think about it before you jump in, and once you are married, work at it like it's the most important job on the face of this earth. Because the payoff is pretty cool.

'Kay - I'm climbing down from my soapbox now. :)


  1. I know! I was really upset when I saw Kim K was filing for divorce! I really hope the entire marriage wasn't just a publicity stunt. :( UGH!

  2. Couldn't have said it better...... :-)


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